Count Victor Lustig never suffered from imposter syndrome, and he wasn’t a Count, a Victor, or a Lustig. He was a Robert Miller, born in Bohemia in 1890 (probably). Bob was a fraud, and “Count Victor Lustig” was only his favorite alias. His most famous fraud was when he forged government credentials and sold the Eiffel …
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Thirteen years ago, David Copperfield got mugged at gunpoint by some teenagers who’d just moved to Florida from Kentucky. But David Copperfield—the most commercially successful magician in history—didn’t actually get mugged because he used slight of hand to make his pockets appear empty. In “reality,” David Copperfield’s pockets were holding his wallet, his cellphone, and …
I don’t know how to play the piano. (I write the cord names on colored tape and put them on the keys. I can only have one song’s worth of chords labeled at a time.) I’m an ok singer. (I have my moments, but my tombstone’s never going to say, “She could sing.”) I love …
We’re told empathy is good. That it’s great. That without it we’d be sociopaths. Fine. I don’t disagree. But I think it’s time we sat down and talked about the dangers of too much empathy. (Now, if you suffer from not enough empathy, go away. This isn’t for you. Go figure out how to have …
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I think it was Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estes who said: “Ancient dissectionists spoke of the auditory nerve being divided into three or more pathways deep in the brain. They surmised that the ear was meant, therefore, to hear at three different levels. One pathway was said to hear the mundane conversations of the world. A …
The Law of Conservation of Energy says that energy is not created or destroyed. It’s just there. All the time. The same amount. Always. Every day. There’s no more. There’s no less. It basically bounces around being different kinds of energy. Going where it’s needed. Getting transferred from place to place during its eternal journey. …
It’s possible I made this playlist to help men get in touch with their feelings. Anything is possible.
What voice inside you have you sheltered? Kept? Saved? Nurtured, but never let take the lead? Listen for it. Let it guide you to the next thing. Trust it. Trust yourself. You chose to keep that voice and care for it, the least you can do is unleash it and see what happens.
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